Moving House with Children
Deciding to move house is a huge decision for parents with children as the happiness of your little ones is put at risk. While adults usually focus on the benefits and practicalities of the move, children are more prone to considering what they might lose through it, making the process even more difficult and stressful. By understanding your child and looking at the ways in which you can persuade them to embrace the experience, you can make the moving period more enjoyable and effective.
Adults are the primary decision makers when it comes to moving home, and while children might understand that the parents are in control, they might become angered and frustrated with the choice they’ve made. If parents do not approach the situation in the correct manner, their offspring might begin to feel helpless and powerless with the knowledge that they are unable to hold on to the comfort that their current home can provide them with.
Research has proven that the stress that comes with moving house can have a huge influence over a child’s psyche. Often causing psychological distress – thae type that only comes with losing something of great familiarity and security – a stressful move can have a damaging effect on the little ones. Children have been known to react to the pressure by sucking their thumbs, wetting their bed, talking like a baby, becoming excessively clingy and by refusing to eat. Sleepless nights have also been experienced, as has a decrease in confidence, aggression problems with concentration, and increase in shyness, stomach aches and headaches.
Talk to your children about the move: be honest yet cautious with your reasons and give them time to get used to the idea. Tell them about their new home, bedrooms and area, and help them to become more comfortable with the idea. Speak to them on their level and focus on the positives. Take them to the new house a few times and chat to them about your new lives there. Talk about how you’ll decorate their rooms, where they’ll be able to watch TV, which tree you’re planning to put the tree house in, and where they can keep their pets.
Make the moving process easier on yourself by planning ahead and making use of self storage. Cape Town has several moving companies that are both reliable and affordable to help you pack up your things and take them either to storage to be unpacked in the future or to your new home. Move home while your children are at school, allowing them to say goodbye to their old home before school and then arrive at the new one afterwards – this will make it easier on them and you’ll be able to focus on moving everything while they are safely in class.
Moving house can always be a positive thing; whether you’re downsizing, being forced to relocate for work or are moving into the home of your dreams, they’ll be a plus side to the move. If possible, go about the process in as slow and open manner and take the opportunity to learn something new about your children. Consider their needs, moods and comforts in the process, ensuring that they focus on the adventure ahead rather than the loss of familiarity. While it might take some patience and you might become frustrated, at the end of the day your family will be happy and safe in your new home without having suffered any knocks of confidence or undergone any major psychological distress.